Tell me your deepest, darkest secrets and I’ll tell you mine…
1. Your role?
2. Current relationship?
3. Your favourite type of play?
4. Your most hated type of play?
5. The most annoying habit of your owner/slave/whatever you call your SO?
6. Your deepest fear?
7. Your most memorable public experience (or what you would like to do in public)?
8. What gets you in the mood?
9. Favourite method of masturbation?
10. Scariest thing you’ve seen or heard of in BDSM land?
11. Number of hours you spend on iFet when you should be doing other things?
12.Thing that was hotter in fantasy than it was in reality?
13. Most longed-for experience?
14. Ouchiest toy?
15.Book or movie that every newbie has to read/see?
16. Thing you’d like to change about yourself?
17.Thing you’re most proud of?
18.Funniest dom name you’ve ever heard?
19. Do your family and friends know?
20. Is twenty questions too many?
I’ll post my answers tomorrow 
you know I’m in
posting mine in a few hours
Yay! I look forward to reading them
Thank goodness. I’ve been having trouble thinking of a blog! Posting.
I know the feeling. I’ve been struggling so much this week for topics and when I do come up with a topic is just seems so whiney. I enjoyed your answers and while I was commenting over there your blog layout changed and it was totally too much for my brain to handle! Lol. Me likey!
Okies…
1. Your role? – Would prefer dominant but would accept being a submissive – the role is less important than a vastly unequal (and unchanging, not really a switch) power difference.
2. Current relationship? – None, unless you count being for practical purposes a semi-unwilling service slave to a parent who has serious health and mental problems. “Semi-unwilling” is due to the fact that this is a hyper-stressful situation where it’s like I have the full duties of both a master/mistress and a slave and none of the benefits of either, plus our preferences for virtually everything are in opposition, but there does not appear to be any reasonable or ethical way out of it.
3. Your favourite type of play? – Probably bondage. This would be both giving or being subject to it, dependent on my role in the relationship.
4. Your most hated type of play? – Anything involving serious pain, whether giving or receiving, even if the other person really wants and enjoys it.
5. The most annoying habit of your owner/slave/whatever you call your SO? – N/A, unless you count the previously-mentioned parent, in which case it’s “Whoops, I did stupid things without asking if it would totally fuck up both of our lives right now. And it did. But it’s not my fault because I have needs and stuff. You fix it.”
6. Your deepest fear? – That I will never break my current record for longest-lasting relationship, which is 3 days.
7. Your most memorable public experience (or what you would like to do in public)? – Not sure if this counts as “public”, but go camping naked out in the deep wilderness.
8. What gets you in the mood? – Someone else being (or at least seeming) receptive, period. Otherwise, random as far as I know.
9. Favourite method of masturbation? – Anything mutual.
10. Scariest thing you’ve seen or heard of in BDSM land? – Not sure. I suppose it would be a few stories of extreme BDSM gone wrong which resulted in the sub’s death, but that’s only scary in a vague abstract sense because I don’t know anyone who’s been affected by that, even indirectly, and I wouldn’t want to get involved in the more extreme stuff anyway even without any horror stories.
11. Number of hours you spend on iFet when you should be doing other things? – Never heard of it. I use Fetlife.com. (I tried looking it up, but I can’t seem to find anything about it, all I get is a bunch of acronyms like “International Federation of East Timor.” I’m going to assume iFet is not a website, whatever it is.) And not very much, because I’m never on there or anywhere else when I should be doing other things.
12.Thing that was hotter in fantasy than it was in reality? – Threesome with 2 guys. Then again, neither of them were really my type anyway.
13. Most longed-for experience? – A relationship which lasts. Even better, more than one. At the same time.
14. Ouchiest toy? – No toys yet. No money to waste on non-essentials, mostly thanks to previously mentioned parent’s health problems and “wacky” antics.
15.Book or movie that every newbie has to read/see? – Dunno. I’ve heard “Screw the roses, give me the thorns” is a good book for that, but I’ve not read it myself.
16. Thing you’d like to change about yourself? – A sex change, and I’d like it done around puberty, which was 23 years ago.
17.Thing you’re most proud of? – I don’t really experience or understand the concept of pride, or its opposite, shame.
18.Funniest dom name you’ve ever heard? – Haven’t heard very many period, and none funny that I can recall.
19. Do your family and friends know? – I’m fully out as bi. I’m fully out as trans. I’m only partially out as into BDSM, because unlike the other two things this has not been well-received so far, and it’s not been all that relevant to my life anyway.
20. Is twenty questions too many? – Not always. In this case, probably. But I answered them anyway.
!. Could you really be either? That’s fascinating. Although I find people who can switch to be fascinating as well.
6. I used to have a relationship record of three days too. Although for a long time it was my *only* relationship record so that was kind of depressing in itself. But things do change and I’m positive they will for you too.
10. Now death is pretty damn extreme. I’m curious as to how it happened.
12. What wasn’t hot about the threesome? Just the logistics of it (I hear that getting the rhythm going is really hard)?
16. Don’t you experience the loss of power as a kind of ‘shame’ feeling?
20. Thanks for playing!
Responses to responses:
1. I’m pretty sure I could, yes.
6. Definitely hope so as well, but not holding my breath at the moment.
10. There are two ways which I’m aware of that this could happen. Really severe beatings or pressuring (as with a vise or something), especially in areas outside the usual recommended targets, have been known to cause internal bleeding. Asphyxiation play done wrong or for too extended a period has been known to cause heart attacks, even in younger people. Internal bleeding and heart attacks can both be fatal.
And aside from that, there has been at least one case that I’ve heard of where the supposed “domme” was only pretending to be one, for the purpose of getting into the sub’s home, tying him up, robbing him, and running away. She either knew nothing of proper rope safety or didn’t care, and he died due to some sort of complications (don’t remember the details) involved with being improperly bound for several hours.
12. The logistics weren’t that bad, it’s probably more that I’m not really much into strangers, or overweight middle-age guys. But I went with it anyway just because I’d never done it before.
17. No. Not unless “annoyance” (which doesn’t feel any different from annoyance in any other circumstance) is a form of shame.
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