Sitting at home watching a documentary entitled ‘My Lover’s on Death Row’, I thought two things: (1) even though we have something like 40 channels to choose from on pay tv there is still nothing to watch and (2) I think I understand these women.
Most of these women ‘met’ their lovers by writing to them. They exchanged letters and pictures back and forth and made a few visits. Some of them then promptly got married. They say that they are in love and who and what their criminal partners did or didn’t do is irrelevant.
I think that there are two attractions at work here. Firstly, the attraction of the dangerous man who is safely locked away and secondly the idea of being different. I’m sure they enjoy the aura of power and control they feel about these men and they similarly enjoy the looks and stares and ‘how could she’s of people who find out about their new relationships.
There is something intoxicating about ‘scary’ men. The bad boy dom is usually the one that gets all the subbies fawning at his/her feet and how many stories have you heard about subbies falling for these people only to be harmed? ‘Scary’ does not equate with good, but I suppose it’s like a pair of silicon breasts-they seem great on the surface, but there’s no substance inside.
It’s not really unlike a D/s relationship. We fall in love with the power and control (and then often fall in the love with the person) and we get off on shocking people with our bruises, welts and scars of battle. ‘How can you?’ is one of my favourite questions to be asked. It sets me apart from everyone else and I feel a strange sense of pride in being able to do something that not a lot of people want to or can.
Master moans everytime I write something nice about him:
‘But, you’ll make me lose my place on the bad boy dom list!’
And I moan everytime he makes me sound wussy:
‘But you’ll make me lose my place on the bad ass subbie list!’
We all want to look cool in the pages of cyberspace, but unfortunately my wussiness and his nicety glare through the seams. Have I mentioned that Master is a really, nice guy???? Lol..