I was watching the movie, He’s just not that into you last night and I got annoyed. Not only was I annoyed by the continual under-boob-sweat I was having (it’s been stoopid hot and humid here for several days now) but I was annoyed because – yet again- I got excited by a movie that hinted at the possibility of being able to be unmarried and live happily ever after only to be betrayed by the of-course-you-have-to-get-married-to-be-happy ending.
*possible spoilers following*
In case you haven’t seen it, Jennifer Anniston has been partners with Ben Affleck for seven years. They live together, have made commitments to each other and for all intents and purposes live as a married couple. He doesn’t want to get married because he doesn’t believe in it and doesn’t feel that it would change anything. Jennifer wants to get married and splits up with him after she asks him if he will ever marry her and he doesn’t answer.
I was happy when he stood by his principles and moved out. I wasn’t happy when he caved at the end of the movie and asked her to marry him because he realised that was the only thing that would make her happy.
Why the hell does he have to give in and give her everything she wants?
“Because he loves her,” said M to me in explanation after I’d ranted to him about how annoyed I was with the ending.
Well, it’s all fine and dandy that he loves her, but I can’t help feeling that he was forced into an ultimatum – you marry me or else I’m going to be on your back about marriage for the rest of your living years.
Why can’t she accept who he is and be happy with what she has?
I know I’m probably kicking myself in the head by watching chick flicks and expecting something other the fairytale ending, but it’s 2011 not 1892 and I think we should be able to be happy without a rock on our finger.
I’m not sure why marriage is still the holy grail. I feel it’s about as out-dated as shoulder pads and blue eyeshadow. Gay couples can have children, transsexual males can be female cabin attendants, so why can’t a couple that is not married be seen to be ‘on par’ with a couple that is. Why is being married better?
Legally in Australia, a de-facto relationship that has continued for six months is exactly the same as a marriage, so there can’t be any sort of ‘property rights protection’ as a possible reason behind getting married. You can also be married and act like you aren’t, by keeping your maiden name and having separate lives. Marriage doesn’t protect you from a cheating partner or ensure that you have someone to help you raise kids. So why does it have to be the be all and end of life?
I find it all a bit bizarre.