Playing with friends: weird and uncomfortable or doable?
I had someone tell me that playing with a friend is a big no-no.
From a safety and trust perspective, it seems fine, but from a feeling and relationship perspective, is it a wise thing to do?
So I have a friend that I’m considering doing some things with. He likes me. We’ve chatted a lot. He has lots of experience and I know he is a good person but there’s a little voice inside my head that stops me from saying, “Go ahead and have your way with me.”
I’m not sure if it is the voice of reason or the voice of the keeper who sits on the wall that runs around the friend zone keeping the gremlins out and the warm, fuzzy feelings in, but whomever the voice belongs to, it’s making me doubt and hesitate.
I’ve generally had a ‘spark’ with people I play with. I tend not to have sparks with friends and that’s why they are friends and not lovers. Sparks make me nervous and giggle and feel things in my nether region whereas friends make me feel comfortable like I’m curling up with a cup of hot cocoa and reading a good book.
Play should be about sparks, right?
Or should it be about scratching my itch and experiencing how someone else can play with you within the security of a trust-filled relationship?
There’s also the question about whether friends can move from the zone into spark-filled territory. I know people from the sparkzone can definitely move into the friendzone, but can the other direction work as well?
This question of itch-scratching is also a good one. He has an itch and so do I. I’m pretty sure we can scratch each other’s itches, but what then?
Can you go back to the friend zone after being up close and personal with another person’s pink bits?